Last Friday, I took off early and went up to The Farm.
As I turned onto the road I was born on, five miles from The Farm, I was lost in my memory. Almost every half mile along those five miles is a memory.
The house my best friend was raised in and just up the road, the house where my second best friend lived. Another half mile and the big dip in the road, where a deer once came out of the ditch and actually jumped OVER my car.
The next mile, houses of people I went to school with--bus stops at each of those homes. The place where Pam had her near fatal accident the night before her 18th birthday. The corner where I could turn, if I wanted to visit the cemetery--then the house where I raised my kids, the woods I played in and where I wanted to build my little retirement-dream house. The corner and I look to the farm where my son lives and see his truck is gone, so I know he is well enough to be...somewhere and then turn and there is The Farm.
I took the Queen Size blanket I have been crocheting for Chris. I wanted to try it on Susie's queen size bed to see if it was correct width/length and...it was.
Then I went through that door, on the right, and saw the progress they are making on their dressing room/bathroom. It is going to be very nice.
We chatted a bit while we both crocheted, then lunch with Chuck, then the three of us played the USA version of "Ticket To Ride", then Susie and I played a game of "Upwords" and then it was time for me to leave so............I could stop in and see Pammie, just before she left for work. I was home by 4:30, long before dark.
All day Saturday, I stayed in and knitted/crocheted while I watched a couple of basketball games. Both Michigan teams won. I was real concerned about Mark and Karen, flying home from Rome and Jennifer's husband and kids--driving here from New Jersey. So much snow on the East Coast. I didn't see any FB postings that Karen and Mark arrived home, but I figured, no news is good news. If their plane had crashed, it certainly would have been on the News.
I woke up this morning feeling like I had been dragged through a knothole, backwards. My head felt full and heavy and my eyes didn't seem to want to focus very well. At noon, I got a "nudge" and made a HUGE decision.
I decided that if I wanted to know what was going on and get a chance to see Jen's kids, I would just drive on down to Karen and Marks--where everyone is staying. So--I did!
Karen and Mark had a direct 13hour flight home from Rome to Detroit, no stop-over at JFK, so they missed all the snow. Eric and the kids left NJ early Friday morning, so they got outta there before the storm.
Eric was in the garage, working on his truck. Jennifer had taken Elise to stay overnight with a friend and Andrew and Alex had stayed in NJ. Little Guy Evan had spent the overnight with Pammie, and wasn't there.
I stepped out into the garage and had a nice chat with Eric. He was captive in the closed up garage and couldn't escape talking with me. Banal, how's everything going, kind of chat.
Karen and I talked for awhile and she didn't offer anything about when Pammie would bring Little Guy back or when Jen would get back. We talked about her trip.
All of a sudden, I heard voices and in walked my son Mark and Cindy. Then Pammie came in with Evan, followed closely behind by Jennifer with an arm load of food. Apparently they were going to have a Siblings get together and a nice supper.
I got to talk to all of them for a few minutes, then out in the kitchen with Jen. She has acquired a terrific situation with the law firm she is with here in Michigan. She is going to commute!!!??
They have given her a car and some kind of plane ticket where she can get a flight from NJ to Michigan anytime she wants/needs, PLUS a raise in pay. She has a meeting on February 3 and the 12th. She will be staying at Karen's while she is here. They don't want to lose her expertise in Non-Profit Fund knowledge AND she will also be in contact with their side partner in Manhattan.
<So--let me see. The reason they were moving was so Eric would work and support the family and Jennifer would stay home and be Momma. Hm-mm.>
They found out Thursday, they have been approved to build on the lot they found, so when Eric gets back, he is going to meet with the contractor's and get things going. He has yet to start working with his father in ANY of the offices in NJ or New York.
It was nice to see all my kids together. I know they have been trying to put some sort of gathering since before Jen moved. Today was to celebrate Mark's birthday, last Sunday.
I hugged and kissed them all and left with a smile on my face. I didn't want to interrupt their get together and... no one had suggested I stay. LOL
It is still difficult for me to get used to the idea that at one time, I was the center of their world and now...barely tolerated.
I am just thankful for any scraps I can get and am glad that today--I answered a God Whisper and drove on down to Karen's.