title explained

Onward and upward! something that you say in order to encourage someone to forget an unpleasant experience or failure and to think about the future instead and move forward.

My e-mail: jjmiller6213@comcast.net

Friday, October 24, 2014

Blessings


I had three Angels visit me today.  Angels are so very elusive.  They don't tell you their names and they don't tell you exactly where they came from.  They just drop in, give you their blessings and then, they fly away, but you know---because you REALLY know, that they are nearby and keeping an eye on you and all the while, you are not even aware of how much they care about you.

One of them, who flew in from the State of Washington said:


"In hard times, she had learned three things-
she was STRONGER than she ever imagined,
Jesus was CLOSER than she ever realized
and she was LOVED more than she ever knew."

That message took my breath away, because it is so very true and it spoke directly to my heart and soul!

The other Angel came by from Colorado.  Can you imagine?  I didn't even know I had an Angel in Colorado.  I LOVE Colorado.  She said, "Thank You."  She's thanking me?  For what?

I never see comments from these Angels.  Like I said, they are elusive.  How do I thank them?   Perhaps only to remember them in my nightly prayers?  Just to say, "Dear God, please bless my human Angels?"  

You, my Dear Blog Buddies out there, wherever you are, I have to tell you.  I DO say a prayer for you every night.  As I go through my "list" I thank God for everything He has given me, then I ask Him to 'bless and protect, my sister & Chuck, my nephew and his family, Mark & Cindy, Pammie, Karen & Mark, Helene, Susanna & Derek, Marcus, Stephen, Madeleine, Jennifer & Eric, Andrew, Elise, Alex, and Evan.  Bless all my cousins, friends, the people who read my blog and their families.  Bless the President and please God, heal our nation.'  
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Today, I have an extra blessing.  It is the 53rd birth day of my third child, Karen Helene.  She was a 10 month baby, which my doctor said he didn't believe in, until he saw her--dark brown eyes and two tiny teeth poking through and looking as wrinkled as if she had been in bath water for a month.  

She was the easiest of my children to raise.  So loving and giving, right from the start.  She is now, still the same.  She and her hubby have raised five of the most remarkable children I have ever known.  They are all so considerate and giving also.  She is involved in her church and her community.  I don't know why God blessed me with such a wonderful gift, but I am forever grateful that I got to be in her life.



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My lawn mowing guy came by today and mowed the lawn and mulched and bagged all my "visible" leaves.  Seven bags full!  My big Maple tree hasn't let down his leaves as yet, but...I think I can rake them myself!  I am going to give it a try anyway because....I don't want to spend any more $$$ on the lawn.  At least this winter, I won't have that expense.  It's only $40 a month, but still.....


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Oh my!  Darlene came over this early morning.  That poor woman!  

A couple of weeks ago, she dropped in to tell me that she had a pulled muscle in her lower abdomen.  She "showed" it to me (yikes) and I told her I thought it looked like a hernia.

"Women don't get hernias," she said.

"Sure they do," I replied.  "It is a weakening in your abdominal wall and part of the intestine is bulging through.  You shouldn't be lifting anything.  And...you need to get to your doctor!"

So, she finally went to the doc on Monday and ...she has a hernia.  She will need surgery and has been put on restrictions at work.  She is now the store Greeter, which is driving her crazy---she hates it!  I can't say as I blame her.

So--this morning she came in, so upset, she was near tears.

"I have black mold in the little bathroom!"

"Oh my gosh."

"Remember, I had all that insurance work done last spring?"

"Yes."

"Well, I signed off on the papers that everything was taken care of and now...they won't pay to have the black mold taken out!"

"I saw there was a pick-up over at your house this morning."

"Ya...that's Craig.  He is cutting out a part of my ceiling and wall and....sure enough...black mold behind.  DAMN!!  How am I going to pay for this?"

"Don't you have extra money put away?"

"Yes...I don't want to use it though.  I do have a no interest credit card I could put it on."

"Well--rather than touch your cash---your liquid asset, put it on the card.  If they don't charge you any interest, you can pay for it each month and be okay."

"I was just thanking God the other night and now look........he's sent me a hernia AND black mold!"

"Ah...Darlene...you know very well that God didn't send you these things.  God doesn't work that way!"

"Well...it just seems that every time I get ahead, something comes along to knock me back down!"

"Yes...I know, but...that is just part of life ya know.  It keeps us humble."

"Okay.  I gotta go.  I just knew that I had to come talk to you...to get it off my chest and out of my head. I feel better now."

...and off she went.  

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I missed my Soap today, but...it was worth it.  At 12:30 a knock at my door and...there stood Tami's ex husband--Shawn!  I was so glad to see him.

"I didn't see your car."

"I parked over on the other street and walked in the back way.  I don't want Tami to know I'm here."

I love Shawn.  We all loved Shawn.  One of the reasons we tolerated Tami was because of Shawn.  His Mother died about seven years ago and he has called me Mom the last five years.  I have counseled him many times, but haven't seen him in over a year.

We talked and talked.  He told me all about his new marriage and the two children that came with it.  He always wanted children and just adores them.  He is going to church regularly and is so happy now.  

He was up the road to our little hospital for heart tests.  He's been off work for two months with heart issues and finally had an ablation, which has fixed him up good as new..he doesn't need a pacemaker.  He can go back to work on Monday.

"I wish I could help you with some money," I said.

"I wish I could help YOU," he said.

So we just sat and talked and laughed and helped each other out that way.

Another visit by an Angel!!
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I have a question.  Have you ever intentionally purchased a bag of Halloween candy, knowing full well you wouldn't have any Trick or Treat kids coming to your door?   Fun Size Snickers--nom, nom.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Oh my!


I barely had my clothes on and Dar came running in.  She was all flustered and hyper.

"I have just used 440 minutes on my phone!"

"440 minutes?  What did you do.  Start talking in the middle of the night?

"No!  Eight o'clock this morning!"
<it was 10:00 now>

"Sit down.  Take a deep breath and tell me, what in the world is going on?"

"My alcoholic son called me.  He has stopped drinking."

"Didn't he do that a month ago?"

"Yes.  But now he says, it's for good.  He wanted to know if he could come live with me."

"And, what did you say?"

"I said 'no'--just like last time.  So I expect, just like last time, he'll call me back in a few hours, drunk again and cursing me out."

"Or maybe...he really means it this time."

"The phone rang fifteen minutes later and it was...Connie!"

"Oh my gosh!  You're kidding.  What did she want?"

"She called me 'Mommie" and said that she wants to bring the girls and come and visit me for a weekend.  That she wants us to talk and reconnect our relationship!"

"Oh...that's wonderful!"

"No.  It.  Is.  Not!"

"But, if you do reconnect, than  you will be able to see your grandkids."

"I don't trust her.  I'm not letting her in MY house."

"But---it's her house too.  Her name is also on the title.  She bought the house."

"I don't care!  I'm scared of her and I am not letting her in.  I told her I'd get us a motel with a pool and we can spend the weekend there."

"Oh.  That doesn't seem a place that would be very conducive to an intimate, personal conversation."

"Well, what would you do...if Jennifer called and said she wanted to come over and talk about your relationship...try to repair it."

"I'd ask her how soon she could get here!"

"How could you forgive her that easily?"

"Because...she is my child."

"Oh.  You're the wrong one to ask!!"
<I felt some heat arising>

"Well Dar, you wanted to know what I'd do and I told you.  If you want someone to only agree with you...then I guess I am the wrong one to ask."

"Well...I just came over for a minute.  I have to go get my Bigby coffee and some cigarettes.  I am just so upset."

She got up and put on her coat.

"Okay," I said.  "Hope you get it all worked out.  Bye."
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I had to run up to Howell after she left and, as I drove by Pearl's, this is what I saw.

Sand Cranes walking between her and her neighbor's place.

I noticed that most of our trees are coming into their last phase of color.  Not as vibrant as last week and, losing most of their leaves.

A view off my back porch.

View out my bedroom, bath and kitchen window



 Down by the park and lake at the end of my street



There is a really nice large lake on the way to Howell.  Sometimes, like today, I stop in the park and just look out at the glistening water.
 This spot reminds me of Fred.  Every single time he went
up to Howell, he'd stop here for a few minutes.

This is a photo he took in 2010


My neighbor's across the street have their deck finished and both sets of steps done.  Looks nice, doesn't it?
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If I miss a day of posting here, do not be alarmed.  I am working on a "How To" book that my friend Chris has encouraged me to write.  It is taking a lot of writing and taking photos of maintenance stuff and gardening stuff.

I can't come up with a decent title.  She wants me to put my name in the title and I don't want too, LOL.

So, If I don't post, it is because I am tired of writing all day. :-)

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

What I Did Today

Alex was 8 years old yesterday.

I took him to his favorite restaurant this evening.
He loves his new school, because...
#1--there is no dress code
#2--he doesn't have to wear a button-up golf shirt type of shirt
#3-the work is way more interesting
#4-the playground is way bigger and has better stuff

He went to a dirt bike place last Sunday and he had a small mark on his face from, "when I wiped out."  Thinking of my friend Sally's grandson--this adventure of Alex' made me nervous.

I had to get him back home within 90 minutes so Aunt Pammie could get him to Soccer practice.
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I also found out today that Alex' older brother Andrew, who will be 13 in two weeks, is almost as tall as I am.  Alex' older sister Elise is in 5th grade band and is playing her mother's flute!!!!! Which truly warms the cockles of my heart AND little Evan who turned 3 last month came running out for a hug yelling, "Mimi. Mimi."

Nice evening.  I cried on the way home because I can't see them more often.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Angels


Earthly Angels


Jackie's son, grandchildren and great grandchildren
came to rake her leaves

...26 bags ready for tomorrow's pick-up 

I have an earthly angel in Wisconsin, who sent me an e-mail, telling me they were praying the 9 day St. Jude Novena for me.  St. Jude being the Helper of the Hopeless and the Saint for Desperate Causes.

I have an earthly angel in Texas, named Christine.

I have an earthly angel in Indiana, named Marla.

I have an earthly angel just up the street, who invited me out for pizza tonight and...they picked up the tab.

I have an earthly angel from Brighton, who brought out 10 cans of wet cat food and left them on my porch.

Earthly Angels all around me.

I am so blessed!  

Sunday, October 19, 2014

It's All Good--For Now Anyway!

I just noticed.  If I peek carefully between the two houses, I can still see a bit of the walk and the woods.


I'm still not "allowed" to have Jennifer's kids in my house and I can't go into their house.  Tuesday, I will drive over to Jen's when the kids get home from school.  Pammie is with them that day.  I will wait in the car, in the driveway until Alex comes out--the other kids will probably either wave from the open door or come out to say Hi.  He and I will come back to Brighton for his special supper and then I will take him home again.  That's all I get and I am grateful for it!!

I have been working for my author friend Chris, and I had a few hours built up and she transferred the money into my Pay Pal account, which I immediately transferred part of into my checking account--SO--BIG BREATH--I will make it through this month!!!!  and, I will put out of my mind what is left in my Pay Pal account so I don't spend it and next month, if I get an unexpected again--I will remember I have some "stashed" away.  All is good!

I am having the best time.  Chris has asked me to write up a sort of How To book on home maintenance and gardening ideas and stuff like that for women who live alone.  How To drain and flush the water heater, How To get the house ready for winter.  Did you know, on your ceiling fans, you have to change the rotation of the blades for winter or summer?  How To clean out the dryer vent, inside and outside.  Things like that.  I take photos as I do these things and include them in the book.  It gives me something to do--makes my brain work..and she is paying me to do it.

I think she finds "busy" work for me to do, so she can help me and I can save my pride, by not having to ask for help!  

I know I have told you the story of Chris and I before, but...she is like my daughter--probably closer than a daughter because I have shared thoughts and feelings with her that I would not have shared with a daughter...or my sister for that matter.  She lives in Texas and occasionally Idaho, while her Army career hubby is stationed overseas.  She is constantly trying to get me on a plane to visit her ...when she was in Germany, then Italy, now Texas.  

It would be nice...but logistics just don't allow me to travel.  Who would take care of the cats?  I don't fly, so I'd have to drive--can't drive that far.  Not comfortable being away from home for any time.  At least, now that she is back in the states, it FEELS like she is a lot closer.

Chris is the one who wrote the wonderful cookbook.  She is also a children's author.  Here is a blatant promotion for her.  Buy one of her cookbooks for a bridal shower, or a grandchild who is moving, for the first time, into their own apartment, or...for yourself.
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Are you ready for some "Pearlables"?  Kind of like a parable, but there is no moral or spiritual meaning to the story.

Pearl walked down last week.

"Something is wrong with our car."

"What happened?"  I asked.

"I drove up to Wal-Mart, got groceries and put them in the trunk and as I was backing out, there must have been a car coming behind me because I heard a loud horn and I jammed my foot on the brake and...the car just slide over to the right and banged into the car parked next to me."

"How could that happen?"

"I don't know!  It just slide over to the right, all on it's own!"

"Are you sure you didn't put your foot on the gas pedal?"

"I'm not that stupid!  I know the gas pedal from the brake pedal!  The car moved on its own, I tell you."

"Okay.  I wonder what caused it to do that?"

"I don't know.  Merle is going to check the steering."

"Did you damage your car...the other car?"

"I broke up my right front fender, but it only scratched the back fender of the other car."

"Gosh.  What did Merle say?  Was he mad?"

"Nope.  He doesn't care anymore, about anything.  He just looked at it and shook his head.  He said he can't fix it because its made out of plastic and he doesn't know how to fix that."
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I was up to Pearl's the other morning and when I walked in, the house was full of smoke.

"You taking up smoking again?"  I asked.

"No.  Something's wrong with this microwave oven!  I'm throwing the dang thing out!"

"Why.  What happened?"

"It caught on fire!"

"Oh my gosh!  The wiring you mean?"

"No.  Fire on the inside."

"Did you put metal in there?"

"No!  I'm not that stupid!  I know how to run a microwave!  I put in two of those frozen, ready to eat sausages...with a paper towel over the top, and the paper towel caught on fire.  Burned those sausages right up too."

"Wow!  What setting did you use?"

"I used high.  High for six minutes."

"Ah--hh, high for 60 seconds."

Big sigh as she stomps over to the freezer, pulls out the package and says, "Read the directions yourself, Smartie Pants."

And so I did, "microwave on high, 60 to 70 seconds." and I handed the package back to her.
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As for Dar?  I've only seen her once in the last ten days--she called at 10:30 last Tuesday night...

"Do you have any Kaopectate?"

"No."

"I thought you had a pharmacy in your bathroom cupboard!"

"I do, but I don't have Kaopectate."

"I've got diarrhea just terrible and I need something."

"I've got Imodium D.  That will work."

"Okay.  I'll be right over."

So, I went and got the Imodium and walked out on the front porch because she isn't bringing nasty germs into my house!!!
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My fur kids are certainly enjoying the window bench I made for them, out of two of Pearl's thrown away end tables.
As an added bonus, Pearl can look out of her bedroom window and see them. :-)












  

Friday, October 17, 2014

More Good Than Bad Today....................

...of which I am truly thankful.
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A friend of mine just got back from a cruise and this was sent to him yesterday--Mexico wouldn't even let the ship dock, so they had to turn around and head back to Galveston!  I hope everyone on the ship gets a free cruise out of this!

Good morning everyone from my hotel room here at the Marriotthyattcontinental. Some of you may have seen a news report that I wanted to make sure I responded to as quickly as possible. Here then is Carnival's reply to that report;
Late afternoon on Wednesday, Oct. 15., we were made aware by the U.S. CDC of a guest sailing this week on board Carnival Magic who is a lab supervisor at Texas Health Presbyterian Hospital. At no point in time has the individual exhibited any symptoms or signs of infection and it has been 19 days since she was in the lab with the testing samples. She is deemed by CDC to be very low risk. At this time, the guest remains in isolation on board the ship and is not deemed to be a risk to any guests or crew. It is important to reiterate that the individual has no symptoms and has been isolated in an extreme abundance of caution. We are in close contact with the CDC and at this time it has been determined that the appropriate course of action is to simply keep the guest in isolation on board.
Cheers
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I ran up to the doctor's office and got my flu shot this morning.  Michelle, who does ALL my blood draws and shots is a wonder.  For the blood draws, she uses a small butterfly needle and I never have a mark.  Today, I didn't even feel the shot--and I am quite a needle phobic.

I said, "You are so good at the whole needle thing!"

"Yeah, I know.  I'm the best in town.  I'm the best around." she sang.

"I'll let you know for sure...tomorrow...if I wake up and my arm aches!"  hah.
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MAY & JUNE:




















NOW:

Everything cut back, pulled out, cleaned up and put to bed.
Makes me sad.
We have a cold front coming in and rain.  Much cooler temps from now on...so...I'm ready.  Soon snow will cover all my gardens--steps AND porch.  Oh--I can hardly wait!  <not>
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I have fallen in love.  He's 6'6" and he knows what he's doing.  He arrived in this vehicle to save my sanity.


I have been having problems with my Internet since July 9th.  Then, end of September, my phone went out.  A tech came and said he fixed it.  I was charged $60.00 for a service call--even though it was OUTSIDE and we don't have to pay for outside problems--the problem was with MY phone lines, AT&T and that was my problem to pay for.

The next day, I lost most of my TV channels.  So I called and another appointment was scheduled.  The tech arrived today and checked everything out.  He told me that there were "many small problems" with the outside cables AND that the first tech should have found and fixed them, BUT his work order only called for him to fix the phone, that's all he was required to do!

Well--this guy today--didn't seem to worry about what he work order only said, he fixed everything!!  He took out and put in all NEW cables from the outside box to my home!  He replaced the cable from the outside to my Internet connection into my home!  He gave me a new modem!  He gave me a new remote!!  It's like I have all new hook-up and components!

No cost to me and he "suggested" I call customer service and see if I could get a credit of some sort.  So--I did AND I did!

<I hugged him!!!  Gosh--it was nice to get a hug from a big, tall, strong person!>

My bill this month was for $180.00--with the service charge.  After all my entitled credits (in my opinion) my bill is now $144.00...usually I pay $120.00 a month, for my bundle.  I told them I would have to pay the extra over the next couple of months and they said that was "okay."

So, I will pay them 131.00 this month and 131.00 next month, which means...I will have enough money left on my debit card to take Alex out for his birthday supper on Tuesday!!!

That is what bummed me out so much earlier this week.  If I had to pay the extra, I would only have had $5.00 left in my checking account--not enough for Alex' supper.  

I will now have $28.24 and after his supper, I may still have $20.00 to last until November 3rd--when it will be time to take Andrew out for HIS birthday supper.  I get my SS on the 3rd, and I will take him out after that and then--worry about the rest of the month later.

I hope I don't have to buy any food the rest of this month, LOL.

I truly am in sad shape aren't I.?   It's so pitiful that it's almost laughable! :-)
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Thursday, October 16, 2014

Rainy and Dreary



The road that runs by" my" Cemetery.  It curves to the left and continues
through another 1/2  mile long tunnel of trees.


I put this collage together for my Throw Back Thursday photo on Face Book.

It show three generations of us, starting with my Mother, holding the same Bible on our wedding day.
My mother--Me--Susan--Pam and Karen.  Karen now has the Bible and we are hoping that one of her daughter's will use it too.  Wouldn't that be nice?

I (thought) I was posting funny pictures and comments on Face Book about the new neighbor's.  Playing Gladys Kravitz and all that.  Last night, I posted a picture of the guys coming in to flush out the sewer connection behind their house and kidded that their son, the park manager, should have told them that part of that connection has problems from time to time.  It is the part for Jackie's house and theirs.

Then, people starting commenting that I should turn in the park management to some authority to force them to fix the problem.  I should form a committee to take this problem to park management with our complaints.  The new neighbor's could sue--all that sort of thing.

I realized that my FB "friends" were taking all my (to me) funny pictures and getting a bad picture of this lovely park we live in.  Those who commented are people that have lived in cities all their lives.  I suppose, if they had this kind of problem, they would be calling City Hall and demanding someone do something.

Well--we live in the country.  We don't have city water and sewer--thank goodness!  We have well water and a good sewer system that drains off into an APPROVED retention pond down the road.  We also don't have to pay for our water and it doesn't have all the chemicals like Chlorine or Fluoride in it.  It is tested three times a year and it is pure to drink. 

We also don't have to pay for garbage or yard waste pick-up.  We have snow removal and the grassy areas mowed.  All our electrical and phone lines are buried, so we never lose power.  All this is included in our rent.  We also get free trimming and removal.

So--then I went back on Face Book and tried to explain how different things are, living in the country and "they" commented that I was "writing a book to try and make peace", or I was a "suck up."

I wonder if all those city people get those services free?  I think not!

It seems lately that no matter what I post on Face Book, someone has to comment in a negative way, so---this has taught me something.  Not only will I put some of these people on my "restricted" list so they don't see my postings and...I will not be posting very much--absolutely no more Gladys Kravitz photos of the neighbor's for sure.  

I won't delete Face Book because there are many games on there that I really look forward to playing, but that is going to be about all I do.

Anyway--as I looked out my front windows this morning--and you know my view and you know it is nearly impossible for me not to see everything that is going on across the street--I see this:  Jackie is informing the new neighbor's that they have placed their garbage on "her" lawn!  I was amazed that she would even confront them about something so insignificant.  She's (supposedly) a nice, Christian lady, but she was very upset that they moved in. 


I guess she thinks their bags are going 
to kill her grass?

...and an hour later, she made her point.  LOL


Merle and Pearl went shopping for a new recliner for Merle--his birthday is this coming Monday.  They looked at a ton of chairs and finally Merle said he was tired and pointed to the one he wanted.  Then Pearl decided she would get a matching one.

They made arrangements with their daughter to pick them up yesterday, as she had the use of a pick-up.  Merle came home early from work, at noon, and they were ready to go.  The daughter didn't show up so Pearl called her. The daughter had let her daughter take the truck to work because her car was almost out of gas.  They would be over after the daughter got home.

Pearl was livid!!!!!

"She does this all the time!  We get everything arranged and then---it all gets changed!"

Well, along about 6:00, I saw them leaving to get the chairs.

Pearl called me this morning to walk on up and see their new chairs.

The minute I walked in the door she said, "You aren't going to like them."

I walked into the living room and looked at the chairs.


$249.95


"I think they look nice!"

"Sit in it."

So...I did.  A smallish chair, my head was above the back, it wasn't a "chaise" type, so my legs weren't supported, my feet hung way over the edge of the foot rest, but other than that.

"It's way too hard, isn't it?"  Pearl asked.

"Well, it's new so..............."

"It doesn't rock!"

"No.  It doesn't."

"Look at the fabric.  Merle, with his dirty hands and greasy hair is going to have that chair filthy by the end of the month!  Lay it back."

So I did--it was nice.

"It lays too far back! "

"Oh--well, I like that feature.  I wish mine went back, flat like a bed."

"Well--Merle specifically said he didn't want one that laid way back like that."

"Didn't you................."

"I want to take them back!".

I got up and moved over to another chair across from her so we could look at each other--eye-to-eye.

"Didn't you try it out in the store?  Didn't you sit in it and put it back and....notice it didn't rock?"

"No--not really.  Merle just sat it in and said he wanted it."

"Oh."

 "You said you needed a new recliner.  You wanna buy one from us?"

"Ah--no."

"Why not.  You buy one and we will bring it down to your house and then we will only have to haul one back."

"Well.....In the first place--it is not my color.  In the second place--it is too small for me.  I like a Big Man's recliner.  These are too short for me.  When I lay it back, my feet and ankles hang off  the foot rest and the top part of my head isn't supported by the back.  Besides, I like a chaise recliner so my legs are supported and I like a rocker recliner."

"Oh."

I didn't bother to tell her that at $250.00 for a recliner, it isn't going to hold up for more than a couple of years.  

So--I don't know what she is going to do, but I can surmise that she will be complaining every time I see her and blaming Merle for the chairs.  LOL