Nothing Else To Do

So, I just read Jean's blog post http://misadventuresofwidowhood.blogspot.comand, because she had read where I spotted an old friend on Our Time (a dating site), she also went off adventuring to see what she could see.

And what did she see?  You'll have to read her post.  It is hysterical and very true.  LOL

Most of these poor old guys write the same profile.  The ever present, "I like walks on the beach and holding hands,"  sounds like the lyrics to a song I once knew.  "A few extra pounds" could mean anything from 10 pounds overweight to 50 pounds overweight.  

What attracted me to Fred on his dating site profile--9 years ago, is...he wrote the most fantastic profile.  I couldn't believe a man could spell or use such correct grammar.  In fact, at one time in our three weeks of communicating via e-mail, I accused him of having one of his daughter's write his words.  His profile photo sure wasn't too cute--at the time he was dyeing his beautiful salt and pepper hair and it had taken on the reddish shade that happens to so many men that dye.  But--it was the way he wrote and expressed himself that got to me.



So today--here is my latest find.

He swears it is a recent photo, but good grief--do men still wear this style?  He looks like he is trying to emulate John Travolta in "Staying Alive!"

So that's what I did with my Sunday evening!!!  

Hey--don't judge, it's good clean fun and--"nobody knows my name."

June 21st. The First Day of Summer. The Longest Day of the Year.

My Diamond Jubilee Birthday

YIKES!!

I still chew my tongue when I am concentrating on something

and using my hands

Look at the size of those candles!!

I must have been very special OR more likely,

those were the only candles Mother had in the house

See my right hand going for that frosting?

Every time I turned another year older,

Grandma was hauling me to the photography studio

Story about this very same hammock--when Mother went into labor, Grandma called the doctor out.  He came from a town about 20 miles away.  He checked Mother and said it would be quite a few more hours.  Grandma would not let him go back to town and paid him to lay/rest/snooze in that hammock until I was born, at 8:15 that night.  .

I changed this around to be more like how I am

A 75th birthday is called: Dodranscentennial, which means, "A whole unit, less a quarter."  So--I guess that means, I am only playing with 3-quarters of a deck?

Another Wonder Full Day

The high temperature today was:  65 degrees

Cloudy, cool and rainy in evening

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It took me 15 minutes to drive 2 miles into Brighton.  Four lanes and a middle turn lane, down to two lanes.  This is all I saw--stop and go--stop and go.

I am always early for any event--usually way too early--not so today, when, of course, we had a time constraint on the amount of time we had for lunch!  I finally got here at 12:38.

and we ate in this room--very swanky place

I kept mis-saying "Ciao Amigo's and Karen kept saying, "Mom--this isn't an Italian-Mexican restaurant!"  Well, I knew that, considering this was the exact room Fred and I had reserved for his birthday, our surprise wedding!  I was just flustered.

I had no idea what to order and really couldn't tell from the menu, which was written with a lot of Italian words--so Karen suggested we have the Amici Gorgonzola salad--although, I don't like Gorgonzola cheese (I don't think) so they put Parmesan on mine.  Dried Michigan cherries, pine nuts, shrimp or chicken (I got the shrimp) and cheese and some sort of really luscsious dressing.  Out of this world--and it should be for $14.99!  What I REALLY wanted was the Filet Mignon--I do like beef, but at $30.00, I didn't want to burden my daughters with that hefty bill!!

Suddenly it was 2:30 and we had to scoot to get to Madeleine's ballet camp recital.  We all drove out to Jen's which is on the way.  Jen is not home, but Pammie and I parked in the driveway and hopped into Karen's car and off we went--about a 10 mile fly, down the freeway.

The recital was held in the dance studio--we were all lined up along the edges of the little room, over by the ballet barre.  Karen did get a chair for me, but everyone else sat on the floor.  Talk about close!  I could have reached out and tripped Madeleine, if I wanted to be extremely cruel!

i wish I had a better camera to take video's

It was over in less than an hour.  Maddie had been there all week, every day from 10:00 to 4:00, practicing--she was exhausted!

...and my precious Susanna was there too.

We all came back to Jen's to pick up our cars and Pammie had to go in and check on the animals.  I came back into Brighton to get gas, as it was only $3.79 a gallon and has been $3.90 around here.

Then I took the back way home from town so I wouldn't have to drive in the construction mess.  Hee Hee--they think they can fool me?  No way!

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I was sitting here clicking around on the computer and checked out the, "Our Time" dating site and one of my matches just happened to be!!!  

You will never guess.

I should make you wait..................

The boy I met when I was at MSU for the 6 weeks music program--in 1956!

  

Richard Spencer Dunham!!!!!!!!!

<just saying his name gives me chills>  

The 6'2" track athlete mystery man, my girls have heard the story.  The "city" boy my mother warned me about and was so much nicer to me than the farm boys I went to high school with.  My precious--Little Richard and I was his Long Tall Sally. 

(Oh--there is such a neat story about those weeks at MSU)

We see each other about every 5 years, or so.

He stopped in last year and it was so good to see him. He still has that adorable grin that I used to love, that funny laugh of his and boy-oh-boy--he is the VERY best kisser and hugger I have ever known.  

I think I posted about how he stopped in driving, his renovated Corvette, took me to lunch, and then, when we got back here, he wanted a tour of the house--"I'd really like to see how you have decorated your bedroom," he said, with that cute crooked smile and adorable laugh.

(He stopped in another time, just after I moved in here and said nearly the same thing--shortly after he told me that God had sent him a wonderful woman and they were getting married.  At that time, I told him, "Richard--I'd go straight to Hell if I slept with you..after you tell me God has sent you a good wife.  You better just head on back to East Lansing and be content with God's blessing on you.")

BUT--Richard is a player!!  

He is looking, on the dating site, for a "serious relationship or marriage"--which is hysterical.  He has had both many--but they never last--BECAUSE--Richard always finds someone better looking or sexier.  Now--he is 76--but I can't see as that part of his life has changed all that much--but he sure is a charmer!    AND, he is really, really polite, caring and nice.  He would move Heaven and earth to make you feel loved and wanted and happy!

<did I mention he is the best kisser in this world?>

BUT--

IF he and I ever got together in anything other than a friendly relationship--I would be madly IN love with him in about--hm-mm--probably 30 seconds and he would be madly in love WITH me for--hm-mm--maybe two weeks?

Well--I have been there and done that in 1986--after my divorce and...Judy is a lot wiser now!!!  BUT--OH MAMA--HE IS GOOD!!!!!

He has a "gear head motor lounge" in his basement

with all sorts of vintage stuff from the

1950's, including a drive-in movie

speakers and post (that I gave him years ago.)

He belong to the Corvette Club and has

renovated many Corvettes and is now a

judge for the shows and travels all over

the USA!

BUT--

In his dating profile, he wants a tall woman (that's me), aged 55-68 (that ain't me).  He last girlfriend was 45--and he is now 76. 

He is 18 months older than me and--I do not date men older than me.  Basically, he is way too old for me!!

but..OH MAMMA...HE IS GOOD!!!

 <be still my heart!!>

A Wonder Full Day

Today's temperature was: 78 degrees

Today's humidity was:  58%

Sunny and breezy

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I woke up feeling a bit rough again, but told myself to "Get it together, Girl" and I did.

Shower and load of dishes in the dishwasher, load of laundry...some games on Face Book and then....off to my hometown of Byron for lunch with the Old School Gal Pals.  Today we went to the Golf Course.  I used to practically live there for 20+ years of my life.  Organized the Tuesday Morning Ladies leagues and won the Club Championship one year.  I played my last round of golf in September of 1988 and haven't been back.  A lot of changes I was anxious to see.

Drove through town so I could see what they had done with our burned out down-town.  They have knocked all but two of the stores down and are filling in and smoothing out the land.  It looks weird, but it looks better than those burned out buildings looked.

 October 2012

 June 19, 2014

 The town still isn't sure what they want to do with that half-block on to the corner.  They really can't afford to rebuild.  Some developer may come in with the $$$--we are hoping they put the restaurant back where we used to always have lunch.  It did a good business and people came there to eat from as far as 50+ miles away.

Then I drove up a block to take a pix of my church

This church means a lot to me.  My mother's father was minister there from 1931-1935.  My parents were married there.  I was baptised there and confirmed, married, kids baptized and some married there--friends married there.  All my family members had their funerals there (and I will too) and friends funerals--on and on.  70 years ago, my Mother bought and planted all the pine trees around the church.

 Then it was on up two blocks to the golf course.

I got out and took some pictures.  The 1st hole.  Now--when I played,

it was a straight shot down the middle.  Now there are trees all along

the right side.  AND paved cart paths?  La Dee Dah!!

This is the same hole in 1982--you can see how the trees have grown

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There were ten of us for lunch and the one woman that we ALL dislike, wasn't there. 

<insert big smile>

We sat at round tables pulled up together, so we could all talk and hear--it was great.

Today was mainly to listen too and support our Dear Friend Beth, whose son recently died.  She told of his many accomplishments--the fantastic life he lived in The Czech Republic, all that he had done for the town he lived in...and more.  I thought I knew most of his history, but I found today, I knew very little.  He had a wonderful, giving, albeit, shortened life.

Then there was news of one Gal's grandchild's wedding...another ones news of her children and grandchildren who live in OK.  We have a newlywed in our group and she told funny stories of her hubby and his kids.  We had a small "organ" recital about our internal health problems.  We chatted about what kind of mementos we could safely lay on a grave marker of a loved one--without worry of the treasures being stolen.  We laughed about sex--whatever that is--well, maybe out newlywed friend knows.  There was laughter and tears and it was wonderful.   We always leave with saying, "Well--the good Lord willing, I'll see you next month!"

Then Bethie followed me out to The Farm so she could see how Susan has utilized the vintage fence Beth had given them and a vintage cultivator.  Even though Susan and Chuck are back in Binghamton, NY to meet their newest grandson, his parents home on leave from Germany, Susan said it was fine for Beth and I to come out.  I noticed that the men have the new metal roof on the horse barn, so I took a pix and sent it to Susan so she could see.

Bethie and I walked around the house and she could see, a lot of the perennials she gave Susan last fall, are now flourishing.

New metal roof on the horse barn.  The old roof was leaking and Susan and Chuck have ALL the old family antique machinery and furniture stored in there.

Then, coming back home, a half-mile, I stopped in to see Pammie.  Jen and family are in New Jersey and Pammie has this week off.  I noticed her gardens were looking good so I stopped in to chat and tell her how good the place is starting to look.  Jed Clampett has moved a lot of his rusted out cars/truck/junk out.

She had just divided and planted these Hosta's about two weeks ago.

...and then I remembered--I have wanted a photo of the

"Heart" stone that the mason put in the foundation,

when they built the house for my grandparents.

That was his signature, of sorts.  He looked all

over the farms until he found a stone, shaped like

a heart and he put it in every foundation of

every home he built.

I had bushes planted there and we didn't know that stone was

even there, until Pam and her hubs moved in and, in turn,

pulled out all the bushes!

Then Pammie told me that she is going to have "my" Crab Apple tree cut down (you can see it in the first pix--on the right edge) because it is dying, branches are splitting and of course, full of tent worms every spring.  She is going to have the Centennial Farm sign put in that spot.

I had quite forgotten that in less than 6 years--this farm will be 100 years old--in the same family for that time, and the State and Power Company will give you a Centennial Sign--like this one at Susan and Chuck's.

This is a big deal--at least to me.  I don't know many people who still have the same farm their ancestor's had 100 years ago.  

Then, in 2035, if my son is still alive, and he ought to be, his farm will qualify.  Of course, by then, Susan and Chuck will be dead and...who gets their farm?  Oh Gosh--I don't even want that thought to come into my mind.  I have worried about these farms and this land most of my life--at least the last 50 years--I just can't worry about what happens "after".

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This afternoon, on my way out, I stopped and dropped off a pair of sheets Pearl had me order from NoMoreRack.com.  She said she'd come down later to pay me.  So--when I heard her coming in my door at 7:00, I figured she was bringing me the $31.00. 

 Nope.

An hour later, her daughter stopped in with a bunch of stuff she had bought at an estate sale.  It is all Americana art work and that is not my particular decorating style, but I looked through it.  The daughter didn't want it--had already picked out what she wanted and didn't want any money for it either.  She was really determined that I pick out something because, "July fourth is coming and you need to decorate for it."

<not me>.

I will put out the God Bless America sign because it is metal

and the weather won't hurt it--for a little while.

I thought perhaps Susan would like the flag one made out of buttons--

she's all into the Americana stuff

All the time Pearl was here, she said nothing about the money--so you know what that means.  She has forgotten and I am going to have to bring it up.  I hate that!!!

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Karen just called--she and Pammie and I are going to lunch tomorrow, in Brighton, and afterwards to a ballet recital at a ballet "camp" where Maddie has been in intensive ballet learning mode all week.  It should be fun.  

However--it is the same restaurant where Fred and I were going to have his 70th birthday party and our surprise wedding--but I didn't say anything about that to Karen.  I think I will be all right--I just won't think about the "what should have been" and concentrate on the "what is."

BORING!!!

Today's high temperature was: 75

Today's humidity was: 64%

Rain/Severe Thunderstorms/Rain/More storms

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I could not stay asleep last night--I don't know why.  It was quite weird.  I'd fall asleep and then wake up twenty minutes later.  I did this three times.  Sat up and read for awhile.  Got back on the computer to check out the weather.  Took a Benedryl to help me sleep.  Last time I looked at the clock, it was 3:42.

I must have slept because I heard the storms that came in and just rolled over, put the pillow over my head and went back to sleep.  Another storm, when it was just getting light and I rolled over the other way and back asleep.

The alarm went off at 8:00.  I turned it off.  The phone rang at 9:00 to let me know that the A/C inspector guy wasn't coming.  I struggled out of bed and felt like my head was two feet wide--and it hurt--and my neck hurt.  I had a hard time walking and thought, "Did I have a stroke?"  NO.  I could still smile and talk and walk--I was just so wobbly from no sleep.

Then--I remembered.  Yesterday, I had promised Pearl that I would take her up to the other garden center to look for a Sapphire Blue Larkspur plant,  Since the A/C guy wasn't going to come, I called her and she answered the phone all chipper.  

"We don't have to go if you don't feel well," she said.

"No.  We might as well.  I won't feel any better sitting here in my chair.  I need to get out and move.  I'll be to pick you up at 11:00".

We drove up about half a mile and went on our search.  We told the kid what she wanted and he looked around, but they had none.  We were in the car, backing out, when he ran up to my window.  

"I think I found one for you.  It's dark blue...just like you wanted."  and he ran back toward the store and came back, lugging a pale blue Delphinium.

"NO! That's not what I want!" growled Pearl  "I want an L-something Delphinium."

"Larkspur," I said to him and then described it for him.

"I'm sorry," he said.  "We don't have any of those."

"Thanks so much for looking," I said and started to back out.  I thought he was such a nice young man.

"What's he doing...working in a garden center when he doesn't know the difference between Sapphire blue and pale blue!  He doesn't even know a Delphinium from an L-something Delphinium!"

"I didn't either when you were first talking about them."

"I saw the tag.  There was a word that started with L, before the word Delphinium."

"Was the word, Larkspur?"

"I don't know, but that picture you showed me is a Larkspur and that's what I want."

<okay, then>

"Maybe next spring we can find one."

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I came home, did my Wednesday chores, watched my soap and fell asleep in my chair.

It seemed like just minutes, but it was 90 minutes later, I hear this BEEP   BEEP   BEEP coming from the TV.  Severe thunderstorm WARNING for Livingston County.

I ran into the room to look out and YOWSER--the clouds were roiling and moving fast--then the wind hit and the thunder crashed and we were in it for about 10 minutes.

I was having a heck of a time...trying to get my ear plugs in and tie the storm door to the inside door and the rain was slashing sideways onto the porch and in through the front door.  Maggie The Cat took off to hide under the bed and Buddy, just sat there and when I sat down in my chair to watch the TV warnings, he jumped up on my lap and promptly went to sleep.

It rained so hard for so long that the street out in front looked like a river!  
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Much to my chagrin, Maddie is interested in Mick.  They are "just friends"--yeah right.  He is a computer geek--does a lot of animation.  When I met him, I didn't hear his name so i repeated it.

"Nick?"

"No.  Mick...like Mickey Mouse."

<that's for sure>

Guess who he reminds me of?

Her Dad, who is also a computer nerd. 

That is probably why she is attracted to him?

When she could have this?

The girl is nutz!!!

    

Reading and Writing and Math

Today's high temperature was: 88 degrees

Today's humidity was:  54%

Sunny

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While the rest of the world goes about its business, I am cooped up here in the air cooled and dried house.  Nothing to do but spend hours on the computer, or writing down lists.

An interesting read--not on the computer--that took up some of my time.  You know how the Liberals like to blame Global Warming on us humans?  I have maintained all along that it is a naturally, geological cycle, that occurred before, and will occur again--much like the Ice Age--which will also occur again.

Now, I don't presume to understand a lot of what I read, but, in essence:

The Earth's axis completes one full cycle of precession approximately every 26,000 years. At the same time the elliptical orbit rotates more slowly. The combined effect of the two precessions leads to a 21,000-year period between the astronomical seasons and the orbit. In addition, the angle between Earth's rotational axis and the normal to the plane of its orbit (obliquity) oscillates between 22.1 and 24.5 degrees on a 41,000-year cycle. It is currently 23.44 degrees and decreasing.

Similar astronomical theories had been advanced in the 19th century by Joseph Adhemar, James Croll and others, but verification was difficult due to the absence of reliably dated evidence and doubts as to exactly which periods were important. Not until the advent of deep-ocean cores and a seminal paper by Hays, Imbrie, and Shackleton, "Variations in the Earth's Orbit: Pacemaker of the Ice Ages", in Science (1976) did the theory attain its present state

A NASA brief that basically said, the advance/retreat of the glaciers and the cycles of the last 7 ice ages have to do with the earth's rotation on its axis. The NASA paper also said that a mini ice age ended a little less than 1000 years ago.

Climate Change is part of The Plan and it cycles through periods of gradual Warming and Cooling.  

Oh, BTW--something else I read, a Prius car uses more energy and causes more pollution than driving a Ford F150 truck.

That doesn't mean it's illogical to put up fields of solar panels and acres of wind propellers--other than, the wind farms cause more deaths of the once protected Bald Eagle than any other means.

So--do what you want.  It isn't going to make that much difference either way.
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Did some laundry and cleaned the bathroom--right on my schedule.  Watched my Soap and then off to the doctor's appointment.

I had quite a time getting out the drive, through the construction and out into traffic, but I made it.

I was last seen by my doc in October.  He wanted me to come back in February--3 months.  I told him, I'd be back in six months--it has been eight months.

There is nothing wrong with me.  I can't see the sense of taking up his time and mine to go every three months--just his protocol for Seasoned Citizens, as he calls us old guys.

He wasn't too pleased that I had changed my meds without consulting him.  I told him I was just experimenting and had found the dosages that worked best to keep my pulse rate up, BP down and dizzy spells away.

So--we talked and figured and haggled and I consented to taking the water pill--again (because my BP has gone up a bit)--but half what I took before and he lowered my Lisinopril from 30 mg twice a day to 20 mg twice a day.

He listened to my heart, lungs, carotid arteries and then said,
"Hit the road, Toad."  I got up to follow him out of the room,
"I'll be back, Jack."
"Be back in three," he said as he walked into his office.
"I'll see you in six."  I replied.
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The nurse, Michelle was just coming out of another exam room and I saw Merle and Pearl sitting inside.  I knew they were going to be there for a 3:00 appointment.

Pearl yells Hi and Michelle opened the door a bit.  "C'mon in and sit with us," said Pearl.

Just then,the doc came out of his office and I said, "Nope.  Can't.  I think there is some kind of HIPPA law against that sort of thing."

"There sure is!" he said.  "She'd probably try and diagnose you!"

As he closed the door, I heard Pearl say, "She already does that."

HAH!!

Monday Moaning

Today's high temperature was: 87

Today's humidity was: 53%

Sunny and muggy

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Aren't they just adorable?

Pearl and Merle

They had this picture taken for their 60th wedding anniversary, which is coming up. 

Can you even imagine, when they were dating in high school, how the other kids teased them. 

"Oh--here comes Merraall and Peraaaall".

Pearl and I were planning on going to another garden center this morning to search for a Sapphire blue Larkspur for her front garden.  She woke up with vertigo and I woke up feeling rough AND, at 9:00 the humidity was already at 51%, so we decided to, "do it another time", as she said.

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I was in such pain Saturday morning when I woke up, that I couldn't straighten up.  I spent most of the morning walking around bent over at the waist.  This old body isn't used to three hours of walking up and down a hilly lawn, 15 steps up to the deck and back down and back up and....., picking up sticks with Little Boy and in general, moving almost continually.  Even my thighs, calves, feet AND hips hurt.  

Bethie had given me some Trillium and Jack-In-The-Pulpit plants and I knew I had to get them in the ground.  I took two Advil and figured, as long as I was hurting so bad, bending over and digging and planting them couldn't hurt.

That's all I did all day Saturday.

I went to bed Saturday night at 11:00 and didn't wake up until 11:00 Sunday morning!  Sciatic nerve was still giving me fits, but everything else was just sore--not painful.

So--this morning, I felt pretty good.  Still sore, but not as bad.  It is a real pity that it takes me 3 days to rest up from a 3 hour party.  GEEZ!!  This body is getting old!!

So, after I talked to Pearl, I scooted dragged around and got the bedroom cleaned, sheets and whites laundered, dried put back on the bed, or folded and put away.

Then I noticed that my toilet flusher thingie was broken again.  The cobbled up fix I put on it last fall, had rusted and broken.  So, I had to get out my tools and cobble up another fix.  It flushes now, so that's all that matters.  I sat down to watch my Soap, which is really good lately.

It was getting so hot in here, that I turned on the A/C and after my Soap, I drove on up to put some money in the bank.  I don't know what happened this month, but I do not have enough money to pay the end of month bills.  

"They" are resurfacing the road out in front of the park.  The main road to get from here to...anywhere.  Down from four lanes and a left turn lane to just two lanes.  I had one heck of a time trying to get out into traffic and turn right to get into Brighton.  Now I am worried about how I am going to get out and turn LEFT tomorrow to get into Howell and a Doctor's appointment.  

Maybe I will just turn right--go down to the next traffic light, turn right, turn around in that church drive-way and come back out with the light and head left (west).  It might just be easier in the long run.

We have had the most perfect weather all this spring.  I do not like this hot, humid weather.  I like it in the '70's with a humidity of nothing over 30%.  I hate being closed up inside and like to have my windows and doors open.  Not only that...we have some heavy weather headed this way and you know how terrified I get with the severe thunderstorms.  

I wish they made a Thunder Shirt for people, like they do for animals.

I wish this park had a storm shelter.

I wish I wasn't so scared of so many things.

Oh, BTW--Dar saw my Face Book post about my awful experience at the Brighton Meijer store where she works.  Apparently she showed it to the manager and the manager of that store called me today to hear my side of the story.  She offered me a five dollar gift card and I told her, "No thanks.  I don't want it.  I don't want anyone to lose their job either.  This isn't the first time this sort of thing has happened in your store, and so....I will just shop at the Meijer store in Howell from now on."

That gave her fits!!!  Like their store is going to miss my $250.00 a month expenditure?  Perhaps it will make for a better atmosphere of customer service in her store?